The most difficult thing about my adoptive parenting experience has been coming face to face with and accepting that, by adopting, I have participated in something that has done a great deal of harm to many people. From my initial joy and belief in the ethics of Korean adoption programs (which I describe here in an earlier post), I've come to realize that there has been far more unethical, even illegal, activity in the Korean adoption world than I would have ever believed.
My husband and I have been honored to be the parents of two incredible, beautiful children. They light up our home and our lives. Imagining life without them or them unhappy is unbearable. But there's a flip side. There is coercion in Korean adoption, coercion driven by financial gain. There is a societal disregard for the human rights of women, which leaves them no choice but to surrender their children to adoption, and who suffer the loss throughout their lives. And there are adopted people who mourn the loss of their first families, their homeland, their language, some never finding peace with themselves and their surroundings, some even to the point of self-destruction.
Today's post on Twice the Rice, the blog of a talented writer who happens to be a young adopted Korean woman, encouraged readers to watch The Nation Exporting Babies - Two Faces of Overseas Adoption, which was produced by the Korean news program ChooJeok 60 Boon (In-depth 60 Minutes).
I did. And I pass on the recommendation. Download the program, in Korean with English subtitles, here:
Note 7-23-06: I tried this link today while posting updates, and it seems it has been taken down. I'm going to leave this up, though, because perhaps it was a fluke, also in case someone else knows where the program can be found.
Note 7/31/06: Another link is currently available on Jane Jeong Trenka's website: