No one warns you that that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach and the
shaking hands, and beating heart..at the mention of the word adoption..will
continue to be your companion long after you lose your pregnacy weight and the kicks in your bladder are nothing but fond memories. You might get though the endless nights of silent screams and soaked with tears pillows..but that ache in the gut will be here to stay.
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I think I have allowed myself to believe that by adopting, I've helped my children's first parents, especially their mothers who carried and bore them, move on with their lives, come to closure. But from what I'm reading, there is no closure. It's just a phrase society has invented to tidy up the details for those of us who do move on - because we have the children.